It can be extremely overwhelming if a loved one is impacted by sexual misconduct. Someone you care about has experienced tremendous trauma, and you might feel the urge to "fix" things even when you know that probably is not possible.
The most important support you can provide is to believe them.
- Reassure them that it is not their fault. Self-blame is a common reaction for victims.
- Listen actively and non-judgmentally.
- Allow the victim to make decision about what to do next.
- Trust that what they choose to do is in their best interest.
You can also assist your loved one by educating yourself about resources and options available to victims at UVA.
Support is available for you as well. Learn more about the support resources available on and off Grounds. A more thorough breakdown of how to support a friend, child, student, and/or respondent is also available here.